Things are actually going pretty well for me at the moment. Work is very busy, which is great, and I’m just about having enough time to squeeze in being sociable and seeing my friends. Sure it’s a bit more hectic that I’d like it to be, and things like hayfever, some quiet bouts of depression and people being a nightmare, it’s been ok.
Obviously missing a lot of my old friends. Seems to have been months since I’ve seen some of them. Others’ I’ve seen quite regularly, but things like Facebook help to stay in contact, so it’s not so bad.
Some arguments with, well, mostly one friend. Similar things have happened before though, with them and other people. Mostly about things that I’ve done wrong, but they’ve not been able to tell me I’ve done anything wrong, so things have got worse. Instead of just being honest and saying what they do and don’t like , it’s turned out as anger towards me, and I’ve taken that as them wanting more attention. What I didn’t realise was actually that’s what’s been getting to them, and ended up in a fairly major argument. That caused me to get pretty upset because I didn’t realise I was doing anything wrong at all, and they were too scared to be honest and just say how they’re feeling. Of course, now I’m getting all the blame for it when I didn’t know what I was doing was hurting them instead of helping.
I don’t understand why people just can’t be honest and explain what’s up, rather than hiding behind hints and expecting friends to just realise what’s up. I guess I’m as bad as anyone like this, but it’s got to a really hurtful argument that I could really do without right now. Especially since it’s all been a shock since I didn’t expect it, I thought things have been great lately.
To summarise, if somethings’ wrong – talk about it. Don’t hide behind hints and attention-seeking. It just causes anger and resentment.
More specifically, if you don’t appreciate that someone is trying to be there for you, accept that they’re trying, and appreciate it – but explain that’s not something you need right now. Don’t hide behind your emotions, anger, violence and sarcasm, because anyone sensitive is going to think that you’d appreciate more support; which is going to make it worse.
Other than that things are actually pretty good. Had some nice chats to my other friends, and actually feeling a lot more comfortable about moving forward with my life, which has felt like it’s kinda been on hold for a long time because of stuff on my mind, work and commitments.
One company I must mention – Microdirect suck. Lots of people seem to complain about their poor customer service, and there’s plenty of other stories about how terrible MD are, especially with awful returns. My experience? Bought a motherboard that turned out to be DOA (Dead on Arrival). Obviously I’d tested all the other components, and they were all fine in my testing board. This is for a customer, so I wasn’t too happy, but I guess sometimes Motherboard fail, right? (first time for me with this manufacturer!) I arranged a return, took days to get an RMA number, but I sent it back with their postage. Admittedy RMA postage was free for the first 30 days. Being as it was broken on receipt, I don’t see why I should EVER pay for return unless it turns out to be fine, but that’s just my opinion.
Anyway. I received the new one about 10 days later, remember I’ve got a customer waiting patiently. Got it all set up. Same problem. DOA; won’t boot, nothing on screen. Exactly the same. I checked the serial number, it’s the same as the old board! They’ve sent me the SAME motherboard back as what I’d sent to them. I phoned, they told me I was lying and that they’d probably put the motherboard in the old box, despite the board already having signs of being screwed in, having a loose northbridge heatsink and the backplate not being in a plastic bag. They couldn’t deal with it on the phone, so I had to fill in an RMA online. I said I’d like them to arrange collection and a refund, and to call me to arrange.
Must get in contact with some old friends, and get on with some side projects I’ve had in mind for years. It’ll happen this year. I’m sure. Aside from the arguments and stuff being my fault without me realising or being told about it, things are actually pretty good for once! Can’t actually complain, but could do with a hug if anyone has one spare?